Depression….

Depression (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease your ability to function at work and at home.

Love…….

The craziest thing is that I have no clue. I have a feeling that I’ve built such a huge wall that I am being perceived as the person who will not love deeply; even though I do. I do it well on paper, just not in person. So, if you see the real me, it’s quite the compliment.

I have learned a lot about myself through one relationship. One, that I can’t take my mind off of. It’s driving me batty trying to figure myself and my feelings of loss out. 

With that person:

  • I could be who I wanted to be. 
  • I could feel like I’m home. 
  • I could say what I wanted to say. 
  • I could tell them anything I wanted to share (right down to the stuff that no one wants to talk about.)
  • My soul was peaceful.

Judgement…

We have no choice to view an action as good or bad; thus judgment is inevitable. The act of stealing is bad. However, when we condemn a thief before we have knowledge of his or her circumstances, we are destined to bathe in negative emotions and kill our own love within.

Control….

When you hit what you think is a breaking point, don’t resist it, but embrace it. Walk right into it. Often these moments are occurring precisely to illuminate what you’re missing in your life, and what you deeply long for. When you learn to embrace rather than fight the lessons these challenging moments are trying to teach you, suddenly a new path becomes clearer and more possible than ever before. Breakdown can indeed pave the way for breakthrough, if you let it.

Pancreatic Cancer…….

Pancreatic cancer is usually not found until advanced stages because it is hard to detect. Signs of pancreatic cancer include jaundice and weight loss. Risk factors include having diabetes and exposure to certain chemicals. Specific treatment depends on the size and location of the tumor, and whether or not it has spread to other areas of the body.

  • Upper abdominal pain that may spread to the back.
  • Yellowing of the skin and the whites of the eyes jaundice.
  • Tiredness
  • Loss of appetite.
  • Light-colored poop.
  • Dark-colored pee.
  • Weight loss.
  • Blood Clots  in the body.
  • Itchy skin.
  • New or worsening diabetes.
  • Nausea and vomiting

Desires

The ability to resist desires simply depends on two things — the strength of the desire and the strength of self-control .Both these variables are different for everyone. Empirically, the stronger the desire gets, the stronger your self-control and willpower should be to overcome it. (Yes, there are ways to hack willpower, but a baseline level of self-control is required in any case).

Thoughts

We are aware of a tiny fraction of the thinking that goes on in our minds, and we can control only a tiny part of our conscious thoughts. The vast majority of our thinking efforts goes on subconsciously. Only one or two of these thoughts are likely to breach into consciousness at a time. Slips of the tongue and accidental actions offer glimpses of our unfiltered subconscious mental life.

The intrusive thoughts you may experience throughout the day or before bed illustrate the disconcerting fact that many of the functions of the mind are outside of conscious control. Whether we maintain true control over any mental functions is the central debate about free will. Perhaps this lack of autonomy is to be expected as the foundations for almost all the mind’s labors were laid long before our ancestors evolved consciousness.

Even deliberate decisions are not completely under our power. Our awareness only sets the start and the end of a goal but leaves the implementation to unconscious mental processes. Thus, a batter can decide to swing at a ball that comes into the strike zone and can delineate the boundaries of that zone. But when the ball comes sailing through, unconscious mental functions take over. The actions required to send him to first base are too complex and unfold too quickly for our comparatively slow conscious control to handle.

We exert some power over our thoughts by directing our attention, like a spotlight, to focus on something specific. The consequences of doing so can be amusing, as in the famous experiments in which about one third of the people watching a basketball game failed to spot a man in a gorilla suit crossing the court. Or the consequences can be disastrous, as when a narrow focus prevents a driver from noticing a light turning red or an oncoming train.

Although thoughts appear to “pop” into awareness before bedtime, their cognitive precursors have probably been simmering for a while. Once those preconscious thoughts gather sufficient strength, the full spotlight of consciousness beams down on them. The mind’s freewheeling friskiness is only partly under our control, so shutting our mind off before we sleep is not possible.

Limits we need….

I would argue that you should definitely dream big and examine any subconscious limits that may be holding you back. However, an important step in achieving your goals and turning your dreams into reality is to set carefully chosen limits. After all, limits help to define, give shape, and add substance to your dreams. During the past few years I’ve set several limits for myself that have been of great use in helping me to achieve my goals. I’m going to share nine of them with you so that you can consider applying these limits in your own life.

Choices we make….

Somebody has rightly said, ‘Life is all about the choices we make.’ The decisions we take every single day, whether small or big, impact our life in one way or another and determine how our coming years would unfold. It is simple— the better choices you make today, the better opportunity you have to lead a happy life. To live your life at its best, here are six things we all need to stop doing.

Day you decide – I had enough….

You’ll stop being sad, angry, and depressed. Instead, you’ll become certain and resolved. Your heart will whisper to you “that’s enough” and it’ll point you towards the life you truly seek, there it is, just over the horizon, and you’ll have hope again.

One day, Instead of living in the unknown future of the “what if?”, instead of living in fear of being without, you’re going to be so distraught that you’ll decide anything is better than this. That’s when you’ll finally take the fearless leap to live for yourself.

You’re going to realize that this is your one and only life, and that you’re wasting it because how you’re living now is slowly killing your soul, and you’ll decide that you don’t want to die inside. You want to live.

Causes of Loneliness….

A lack of personal connection is a major factor when someone’s experiencing feelings of loneliness. Someone feeling lonely often feels misunderstood or isolated. One common cause of loneliness is regular use of social media. Those who engage with social media tend to experience more feelings of loneliness compared to those who don’t engage with social media platforms. 

Those who feel less lonely are more likely to:

• Have good relationships with coworkers

• Have good overall health

• Have deeper interactions with others

• Have balance in life through social interactions

• Get regular exercise

Reasons you say yes when you want to say no:….

  • You follow the golden rule — Do unto others. You help people because that’s what you’d want someone to do if you were in need. But I’m willing to bet that, if you see a lot of yourself in what I’m writing here, you don’t ask for a lot from other people. You’re self-sufficient and responsible, and that’s why people ask for your help in the first place.
  • You’re a person of your word. Sadly, this implies that you’re not allowed to change your mind after putting more thought into something. You’re willing to put yourself out to avoid feeling “flaky.”
  • You may be a caregiver-type; you may practice savior-behavior. People always come to you when they’re in a jam. You always put out the fires.
  • You fear that you’ll lose that person if you say no. You don’t want to be “rejected” or “abandoned.”
  • You fear that if you say no, you’ll have an argument that will send out a shockwave, upsetting other people you care about, e.g., your father is upset with you now because you said no to your sister.